Another Word for Ashamed

21 ashamed synonyms, sorted from mild to intense.

Ashamed is the painful feeling that something is wrong with you, not just with what you did. If you are searching for another word for ashamed, notice whether the feeling is a flush of embarrassment or a deeper sense of being unworthy. Naming it clearly can loosen its grip, because shame grows in silence.

Synonyms for ashamed, by intensity

Mild 路 A little, in the background

embarrassed
Uncomfortable about being seen in an awkward moment.
sheepish
Mildly embarrassed with a guilty grin.
awkward
Unsure how to act after a slip.
red-faced
Shame you feel as heat in your cheeks.
self-conscious
Hyper-aware of how others see you.
abashed
Briefly embarrassed and a little humbled.
cringey
Slang for squirming at your own behavior.

Moderate 路 Clearly there, hard to ignore

humiliated
Shamed in front of others.
disgraced
Your reputation has taken a hit.
chagrined
Annoyed at yourself for a failure.
remorseful
Shame paired with deep regret.
exposed
Something you hid is now visible.
small
Everyday word for feeling diminished.
unworthy
You doubt you deserve good things.

Intense 路 Strong, taking over

mortified
So embarrassed you wish you could disappear.
degraded
Your dignity feels stripped away.
self-loathing
Shame turned into dislike of yourself.
worthless
Shame that says you have no value.
dishonored
Shame tied to failing your values or community.
wanting the ground to swallow you
Everyday phrase for overwhelming shame.
debased
Feeling lowered in your own eyes.

Say it more precisely

I felt ashamed when I tripped on stage.

I was red-faced when I tripped on stage, but I laughed it off.

I am ashamed of my old posts.

My old posts are so cringey I want to delete them all.

I felt ashamed in front of my boss.

I felt humiliated when my boss corrected me in front of everyone.

I am ashamed of who I was then.

I feel small when I think about who I was back then.

Words people confuse with ashamed

  • guilty: Guilt says 'I did a bad thing.' Shame says 'I am bad.'
  • embarrassed: Embarrassment is often brief and shared. Shame is deeper and lonelier.
  • insecure: Insecurity doubts your worth ahead of time. Shame follows a specific event or exposure.
  • humble: Humility is a healthy view of yourself. Shame is a painful one.

Opposite of ashamed

prouddignifiedconfidentself-assuredhonoredunashamedworthy

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Why the exact word matters

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